SCEPTICAL ABOUT MARRYING AN IGBO WOMAN & PROCESSES BEFORE BRIDEPRICE , READ THIS!!!

In response to this epic tweet, would like to advertise a typical Igbo woman. Next will be Yoruba’s and Hausa’s of course all major tribes will be well represented. Are you sceptical about an Igbo woman, or in love with an Igbo girl and planning to marry her? Then this is for you!

Igbo girls, a sect of Nigerian girls from the south-eastern parts of the country (Abia, Imo, Enugu, Rivers, Anambra, Ebonyi), are one of the most beautiful and intelligent women in the world. However, they have other unique quirks which impact their marriages considerably.

 

For those who have fallen in love with Igbo girls and are unaware of these other things that come with being eternally linked to them, Processes towards traditional rites, this list has been put together to help you understand your wife to be and steps towards securing her (Brideprice). Remember, there are exceptions to this rule.

 

1. They value the presence of their family

Igbo girls have deep regard for family and understand the importance of maintaining peace/unity amongst members of family. For every husband, their surnames are protected and proudly attached to their names devoid of how famous they are or how rich they are.

    2.  They will speak their language to the children

While most Igbo girls are well-groomed and can speak English without the detection of a local accent, they are usually well-versed in their dialect and are proud to speak it at any time. Even when they marry from other tribes or country, they do not neglect their dialect for their husbands or a foreign one.

Their children most usually speak this mother-tongue first before learning that of their husband or any other language. So also, they tend to pass down unique Igbo traits and traditions to their children even if they are married into other tribes.

They will take care of you with love

Igbo girls are beautiful and intelligent, but most of all, they are very caring, hardworking and industrious.

They are generally strong women and while the husband plays the head of the home and brings home the bread, she most likely ends up being the foundation of the house: takes care of the kids, the budget, the food, the home generally. She will not hesitate to take up several jobs to support her husband and family, and she will still fulfill her wifely duty to keep everyone happy.

    3. They are very religious

Igbos are very religious people and their preferred religion is Christianity. Most Igbo girls are brought up in strict religious homes and as such, they have the fear of God and the belief in His supremacy instilled in them.

Even when they get emancipated from their parents, they still carry those values with them into their marriage and homes. Be prepared to go to church every Sunday, and observe religious holidays and church programmes once married to an Igbo girl, they hardly compromise on this or convert to other religions.

   4.Their local delicacies will fill out the home menu

Igbos have a large variety of delicious dishes and their women are trained to know these recipes from an early age. They also have a love for their local meals and so they find it difficult to change their diet to food from other areas.

No doubt after marriage, especially if they are married to someone from another country or tribe, they can make the necessary compromise and eat other dishes, but be rest assures that they will not throw their home food completely away. They find ways to cajole their new family into accepting their local dishes and this is usually easy as Igbo meals are usually delicious and the girls are great cooks.

 

The 4 Stages of Igbo Traditional Marriage Ceremony

According to the Ndigbo traditions and customs, the Igbo traditional wedding/ marriage involves the following stages:

1.      Marriage Introduction/ Proposal/ Inquiry (Iku Aka or Iju Ese)  – This happens pre-wedding, and here, the bride and groom’s family get to meet and be formally introduced;

2.      Consent From Her Umunna/ Extended Family – This is the traditional marriage proposal.  As with the Igbo customs, the groom asks for the bride’s hand in marriage, in the presence of her Umunna (direct and extended family, with family elders).

3.      The Dowry/ Bride Price Payment (Ime Ego) – The dowry is a presentation of the customary list of gifts by the groom to the bride’s family, to ask for her hand in marriage.  It is only accepted if the family accepts the groom/ finds him worthy to marry their daughter. The dowry is not an exchange or money to buy the women but has a significance in Igbo culture. Dowry is also practiced in many parts of the World, even during Biblical times.

4.      Wine-Carrying Ceremony (Igba Nkwu Nwanyi) – This is the traditional wedding reception party.

In order to help our grooms get a good idea of what is involved when marrying an Igbo lady, we will write a well detailed post explaining  the processes involved during each of the above Igbo traditional wedding stages, with the procedures involved in our next post. Keep checking for more. 

Please feel free to share your opinion. 

 

source:https://naijaglamwedding.com/igbo-traditional-marriage-stages/